A Modern Perspective on Marriage and Independence!!

 In today's society, it's unfortunate that many individuals, particularly women, are bombarded with intrusive questions about their marital status. The pressure to conform to societal norms can often overshadow the importance of personal growth, independence, and self-respect. It's time to challenge these outdated stereotypes and embrace a more inclusive and progressive mindset.

One common question that unmarried individuals often face is, "Why don't you want to get married?" Marriage is undoubtedly a beautiful institution, but it also comes with significant responsibilities. Many of us are hesitant to rush into marriage for fear of losing our individuality, independence, and self-respect. Instead, we choose to prioritize personal growth and wait for the right partner and the right time.

Another absurd question is, "Do you have no interest in the opposite sex?" This assumption is not only laughable but also disrespectful. The truth is, we have immense love and respect for ourselves, which is why we are cautious about whom we choose to share our lives with.

Similarly, questions about our interest in sex are downright ridiculous. In a healthy relationship, intimacy should be built on a foundation of respect, communication, love, and trust. Sex is merely one aspect of a fulfilling partnership, and it certainly shouldn't be the determining factor in choosing a life partner.

As for concerns about old age and care, it's time to dispel the myth that marriage is the only solution. Financial independence and self-sufficiency are far more important factors in ensuring a comfortable and secure future. We don't need a spouse to take care of us; we are more than capable of taking care of ourselves.

Lastly, the notion of "settling down" is deeply flawed. True settlement is not about conforming to societal expectations but rather finding comfort and contentment wherever we are in life. Whether single, married, or somewhere in between, our worth and fulfillment should not be defined by our relationship status.

To all the well-meaning relatives and friends who persistently ask these intrusive questions, it's time to redirect your focus. Instead of fixating on our marital status, why not encourage us to pursue our passions, cultivate our talents, and strive for personal growth? Your support and encouragement mean far more to us than any pressure to conform to societal expectations.

In conclusion

let's challenge the narrow-mindedness and stereotypes surrounding marriage and independence. Let's empower each other to embrace our individuality, pursue our dreams, and find fulfillment on our own terms. And for those who insist on asking intrusive questions, it's time to redirect your energy towards your own personal growth and fulfillment. After all, true happiness comes from within, not from conforming to societal norms.

Do not worry, all aunties, we will marry at the correct time with the correct man.

Lots of love!

Regards,

Binduja Pillai