💍 After a Long Time, I’m Writing Again And This One’s About Marriage (Yes, Finally!)

Hey beautiful souls! 💖

Guess what? After what feels like forever, I finally sat down to write again and not just anything but something I never thought I’d ever open up about so honestly: M-A-R-R-I-A-G-E! 😅 Yes, that one word that once gave me a mix of butterflies and mild panic attacks.

But here I am, not with all the answers, but with a heart that’s been gently reshaped by God, with tears, joy, and revelation. And I pray that if you’re anything like the old me a bit hesitant, scared, or just plain confused about marriage, this blog feels like a warm hug from heaven. 🤗

Let’s rewind a bit. While most of my cousins were planning weddings and picking baby names at 19 (yep, 19 😳), I was over here dodging relationship talks like a ninja.

They weren’t wrong. They were bold, brave, and followed their hearts. Today, they’re married, raising beautiful babies, and doing life.

And me? I’m turning 32 this August, still single… still praying… still waiting… but now, waiting differently.

You see, I wasn’t afraid of wearing a beautiful lehenga or tossing flowers at the altar.

I was terrified of what happens after the wedding.

The questions haunted me:

• What if he cheats?

• What if he’s always angry?

• What if he doesn’t love God like I do?

• What if I lose myself in the marriage?

• What if I’m the only one adjusting, compromising, sacrificing?

• What if he doesn’t help me grow but keeps me stuck?

Those “what ifs” were loud. And for a long time, they defined how I saw marriage.

But then… God started whispering secrets to my heart. Secrets that slowly began changing everything.

One day during prayer, I told God,

“Lord, I have so much love to give! My future husband will be so lucky!” 😌

I was feeling confident and poetic!

But then God gently said,

“Exactly… he’ll know that only after marriage. Because no 15-minute call or even 6-month courtship is enough to truly know someone’s heart.”

Oof. Reality check.

And then the real shift came:

“What if he is scared too? What if he’s praying, ‘God, will she love me for who I am? Will she pray for me when I’m weak? Will she respect me, support me, believe in me?’”

Boom. My heart melted.

We’re so busy writing our checklist for our “ideal man” that we forget we are also on someone’s checklist.

The question is: Am I becoming the woman I’m praying for him to find?

Treat Him Like a King? Yep. That’s Bible.👑

Then came the biggest heart flip moment. God said,

“If you want to be treated like a queen, then treat him like a king.”

I was shook.

Because we always say, “I want someone who will love me like Christ loves the church.”

But here’s the thing are we loving like the church should love Christ?

With honor, humility, and loyalty?

🕮 Proverbs 31:26 says,

“She opens her mouth with wisdom, and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue.”

That’s the kind of woman I want to be not just for a husband, but because that’s what God desires from me.

🕮 Ephesians 5:21 also says,

“Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.”

Not “submit if he’s rich,” not “submit if he buys you flowers,” but submit because of love and reverence for God.

Marriage is not a contract you sign.

It’s a covenant you become.

Let’s be real. We’ve all checked the wrong boxes before:

💸 Salary?

💐 Gifts?

💘 Butterflies?

But now, my checklist is ONE thing:

Does he help me get closer to Jesus?

Because when a man walks with God, he will know how to walk with you.

And vice versa.

For anyone still waiting, still praying, still wondering if you’ve missed your moment—hear this loud and clear:

YOU ARE NOT LATE.

YOU ARE NOT FORGOTTEN.

YOU ARE BEING PREPARED. ✨

This time of waiting is not a holding pattern. It’s a divine workshop.

God is shaping you into the woman your husband is praying for and trust me, He’s doing the same for him too.

🕮 Proverbs 18:22 says,

“He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord.”

You are not just a woman you are favor walking on earth!

Let the Holy Spirit Be Your Matchmaker

Here's the best part: our love stories are not random—they’re custom-written by the Trinity! 👰🤵‍♂️💫

Imagine this: Bride + Groom + Holy Spirit = A Godly Marriage.

Not just a cute couple, but a powerful team for the Kingdom!

Your story won’t look like others, and that’s the point it’s divinely unique. It’s not just about romance, but about purpose, calling, and eternal impact.

So, Queens in the Waiting… 👑

Don’t just pray for the man.

Pray for yourself that you will be:

• Kind when it’s hard.

• Wise when it’s confusing.

• Patient when it’s slow.

• Strong in faith when you feel weak.

Fall in love with Jesus so deeply that when the right man comes, he has to pursue God first just to find you. 💕

Because marriage isn’t the goal.

Becoming a godly woman is.

Marriage will follow, in God’s time, in God’s way with peace, joy, laughter, and a whole lot of dancing in the kitchen. 😄🎶

Final Whisper from Heaven 💌

Your love story isn’t delayed.

It’s being orchestrated by heaven.

And when it arrives, it won’t be confusing. It will be peaceful.

It won’t be perfect, but it will be God-written.

And that’s the most beautiful kind of story.

So hold on, Queen.

He’s not just writing your love story, He’s also preparing you to love like Jesus.

With love, hope, and growing excitement for the future,
Binduja 💕
"Faith, Believe, and Speaks"